Courting a woman and getting a yes is a latent ability that anyone can develop. All you have to do is follow the suggestions below and you can master the act of starting a great conversation with a woman.
I remember my first attempt when I courted a woman in public. “Shortly after I started my conversation,” she says, “I’m in a hurry!” In my mind, “I pray no one around hears that.” I looked around; no one was looking except an old lady who was frowning at me. I took a deep breath and walked away in style so as not to attract more attention. And of course this happens after pretending I got a call, an excuse to make a quick getaway.
I’m sure some of you may have experienced this firsthand when trying to start a conversation. This is a way girls like to say they’re not interested in whatever you’re trying to say.
Some guys, when they hear this phrase, they see it as a fate worse than death! In a survey, several people were asked what they fear the most. Unsurprisingly, many said heights, financial problems, serious illness, death, flying – these top the list. But you know what’s also high on the list? It’s starting a conversation or talking to a gorgeous girl.
Even the best roaster girls, at some point, get nervous before talking to a lady. The nervousness comes and goes. However, you can overcome your fear by following these personalized suggestions:
I will give you a step by step process of how to woo a beautiful girl you like and make her like you and say yes.
1. Never put a label on yourself
Why is this important? When you label yourself as too shy, too old, or too shy, believe me, you won’t be able to achieve your goal of getting her to contact you or like you.
A psychologist once said, “If you don’t believe you can make something happen, you will act that way, and worse yet, you will stay that way.” You don’t want that, do you? So you need to unlearn shyness and make an effort to remove any obstacles that might prevent you from talking to a lady.
This is what I did. I saw this beautiful girl standing near a bus stop. First I looked at her, then I looked at my phone. I looked at her again; this time, she noticed me looking at her and looked back at me. This happens like 2 or 3 times. That’s all the green light I need.
I walked a little closer to her and said: “hi”. She replied with a “hello”. Also, I said, “Do we know each other somewhere?” I kept my face like someone thinking a lot.
She said, “I don’t know, maybe.”
I said, “okay” and “I’ve met a lot of people recently, both online and offline, and my friends introduce me to their friends every day.” So, “I was thinking, maybe we just met recently.”
She replies, “well, it could be.” So I said, “well, well, I’m Martín, but my friends call me Martí, and you’re…” I stopped there.
You may wonder why do I stop halfway? It’s simply because I want her to complete the sentence.
She replied, “Charlotte.” So I said, “Only Charlotte? Isn’t beautiful she attached to your name as “Beautiful Charlotte?” She laughed. I continued, “Nice to meet you, by the way.”
That’s how the conversation started, and it kept going well. We talked about where we were working on the weather, and eventually we exchanged numbers. I promised to send him a message on Whatsapp and he told me that he was looking forward to it.
Later that night, I wrote to him. She kindly replied, and we continued our pleasant chat from there.
Action plan: How do I reach goals that are quite achievable?
2. Turn your nervousness into a positive
A relationship expert was once asked if, after years of experience, he still got nervous before courting a lady. He replied, “sure, it happens from time to time; I still get butterflies before starting a conversation with a lady.”
Why do I mention this? Well, the reason is that I want you to control nervousness, not eliminate it. Not all nervousness is bad. One happens from lack of practice, while the other is a more positive anxiety. The positive is great because it just pushes you to give it your all.
This is what I usually do to keep nervousness to a minimum.
I court a girl as if I already know her. Normally, you talk all the time with people you know well. So just assume this is just another normal conversation. As you talk to him, relax and smile.
The more casual your approach, the more relaxed and confident you will feel.
Remember that the girl is only human. Think of her as a classmate, colleague, or sister of hers. Even when nervousness shows, she will be understanding.
When I talk to a lady, I see her as my friend. Think of her as my guest and me as the host.
First tip: When courting a woman, think of yourself as someone who throws a party. One of your goals is to make your guests feel comfortable. In this case, instead of thinking that she will make you feel comfortable, be the one to make her feel comfortable. By doing so, she will be able to ease her nervousness.
Second tip: When courting a girl, it’s always best to focus on what you say and not on how you look, how you stand, or whether others are looking at you. For the first time especially, women want to understand what you’re saying, not what you look like, so they can get the message you’re trying to get across.
The way you look comes after: first your message, then maybe your appearance.
Why is it important to focus on the message? Because it helps you be less anxious about yourself.
Action plan: How do I overcome my fears when courting a woman for the first time? How do I stop her from holding me back in needless fear?
2. To court a woman, preparation is key, never forget it
Dale Carnegie, an American lecturer, and pioneer in the field of successful personality psychology, says, and I quote: “A speech is a journey with a purpose, and it must be mapped out, he adds, “Think about it for seven days; dream about it for seven nights,”
If you want to woo a beautiful woman and get her to say yes, you need to be well prepared.
What is the best way to prepare?
Find out how you are doing right now by reading this article. Also, take the time to review this article, “how to toast a woman.”
Know what you are going to say before you take the bold step of courting a lady. Know what you are going to say and how to react or adapt to the different responses you will get It will give you more confidence when you talk to a girl for the first time.
—Remember, women respond differently
As you eat, lie in bed, think, you should contemplate what you are going to say and think of responses that you can use in a different situation.
The way you start a conversation with a girl on a plane, on the bus, at a party, or on the street may be different, and the responses you get may vary.
When I talk to a girl inside a plane, I don’t start with, for example, “how do you find the time?”, but I can say something like “Is this your first trip to Berlin?” or “Are you going on vacation?”
On a bus, I can say something like: “I like your hairstyle”. May I add: “Does your stylist style men’s hair too? Or you could say, “I’d like to give your stylist a 5-star review.”
As you can see? Different situations, different ways to get a girl to respond positively.
Ponder over your message until you get over your nervousness. When you do all this, you will be wanting to start a conversation with the person you like.
Finally, always look your best when you go out. You don’t know when you’re going to be lucky and meet that woman you’ve always wanted to toast to.
Action plan: How can I tailor my conversation to a woman’s specific needs?
How do I stop holding back with unnecessary fear?
Bonus Tip on How to Court a Woman
The following exercise to calm your nerves can prepare you before taking the first step towards a woman liking you.
- move your fingers
- Relax your shoulders.
- It hums softly, switches between a high and low pitch.
- Take 2 or 3 slow, deep breaths.
A reminder: Adapt to the situation you find yourself in
Also, use your voice as your instrument. If you court a woman without intonation and don’t change your tone, you will tire her out.
Take note of your posture. Don’t slouch when you speak. You can convey disinterest. Rigidity indicates nervousness.
It is very important that you maintain eye contact when courting a woman. When you play soccer and shoot to score a goal, you always concentrate and look at the direction of the ball to see if it goes into the net.
In the same way, Each sentence in your communication with a woman is a separate “shot” for her. When she nods her head or smiles, it means she’s “scoring a goal,” so she always maintains eye contact while courting a woman.
My conversation with the beautiful girl I met recently eventually turned into a relationship. I am sure she will read this article and smile.
So after that night I messaged him again after a week. I wonder why I waited a week. It’s because I want you to anticipate my next message and wonder why it’s taking me longer to message you again.
Well, the next week, I text him again. At first, she said, “I thought I’d never hear from you again,” adding, “I almost wrote to you a couple of days ago, but then I decided not to, but it’s good to hear from you anyway. You again.”
I don’t expect him to message me anyway because a lot of women don’t want to be too quick, especially when they just met a guy. Women tend to take the prospect of rejection very seriously.
So, like I was saying, I gave her some excuses about work and all, but I also added that I really wanted to chat with her again, and I’m glad I did now.
Then we make an appointment. We met in a quiet romantic restaurant. We ordered drinks, essence of almost everything. I tried as much as possible to use humor and a bit of sarcasm in the conversation with her, which she found very exciting.
We made arrangements for the next date that every day. This time, we were both looking forward to it with great anticipation. Before the date, we chatted every day. I could not stop thinking about her.
After the second date, I kissed her on the cheek. She smiled but didn’t say a word. So, I know I have scored a goal. I almost called her and told her my feelings, but stopped. I said to myself: “not yet, maybe next time”.
That night, instead of WhatsApping him like we always have, I texted him directly to his phone number. In the text, I said, “I couldn’t stop thinking about you,” “I almost said I love you today, but I was a little freaked out by your reaction.” I added: “Did I just say that? Oops, I miss you.”
She responded by texting my number, saying, “Oh, how nice of you with a ‘smiley face with hearts’ emoji.” When I saw her answer, I started wildly dancing in my room. I know I’ve hit the target.
On our next date, two days later, I hugged her like I hadn’t seen her in two years. She hugged me back. That was how we started dating, no other words were needed to reaffirm it.
“That’s how you court a girl and get her to say yes.”
now to you
The above suggestions should help you master the act of starting a great conversation with a woman.
Now that you know what you need to do to woo a girl successfully, now is the time to put your best foot forward and speak to a beautiful woman.